Why do people kiss? Where did I come from? How are girls different from boys? Getting answers to these questions is no less important for a child than finding out what snow is made of and why it is dark at night. But if for a crumb these are phenomena of the same order, then mom and dad can satisfy his curiosity at times, oh, how hard it is! Such inquiries are usually taken by surprise. And even progressive parents can not immediately find what to answer for why. Meanwhile, the adult reaction in this situation plays a huge role. The formation of the personality, in particular the correct attitudes regarding the most important sphere of human relations, largely depends on what it will be.

Non-child theme

When and how is it worth starting a child's acquaintance with the sexual side of life? The answer of modern psychologists is fundamentally different from the views of their predecessors. A few decades ago, such conversations were something unacceptable. It was believed that intimate topics are alien and inaccessible to babies. First of all, because at a tender age a person does not yet know the sexual sensations. Children were denied sexuality, and parents enthusiastically talked about storks and cabbage, avoiding awkward situations. In fact, the baby receives its first sexual experiences in the womb. Ultrasound studies show that a few weeks before giving birth, boys may have an erection. Contact with mother, feeding, caresses, massage cause the baby a whole storm of emotions, which are somewhat sexual in nature. Of course, it will be many years before a person realizes his feelings and can understand them. In the meantime, the task of the parents is to teach the baby how to relate to himself, his body (perfect - like everything created by nature). Without this, the full development of personality and harmony in relationships are impossible. Psychologists believe that the first conversation on an intimate topic should take place long before puberty begins. Watching adults, communicating with peers, with the help of television, a child bit by bit collects information about that side of life that was previously closed to him. And it is very important that he receives answers to his questions from a reliable source.

What are the boys made of?

Two or three year old babies are already aware of their gender, they are very interested in the structure of the body. All your son’s questions about how he works and how his girlfriend is in the kindergarten, answer calmly, without invented images and fantastic comparisons. First, teach the baby to use the correct genital names. It may not be easy for you to say such definitions aloud to your child. But in the children's vocabulary, neutral terms will take their due place, and not their “street” synonyms. If it happened that the peanut found you while taking a shower, do not panic. Ask him to wait outside the door while you get dressed. And then calmly explain that it is not customary for adults to demonstrate a naked body. The main thing is not to make the baby feel that her body needs to be ashamed. Indeed, such attitudes are firmly stored in memory, reduce self-esteem and can cause sexual problems in adulthood. It is known that most young children study themselves mainly in practice. Even in infancy, the child discovers that touching certain parts of the body can be fun. If you notice that the baby’s hand is involuntarily reaching for his pants, gently distract him by switching his attention. In no case do not scold or punish the baby. Psychologists believe that child masturbation is a fairly natural phenomenon and should not focus the child’s attention on this process. Over time, by the age of six, he himself will leave this occupation. But if genital stimulation is more and more fascinating for the baby, it is better to consult a child psychologist and sexologist.

Where did I come from?

The topic of the relationship between men and women excites all children. Some of them begin to think about this sooner, some - later, but this is necessary. Turning to you with a question, the baby expects to hear an honest answer. Do not avoid such conversations. Who, besides you, will correctly tell the child where such wonderful little ones like him come from? No matter how you are prepared, intimate questions always seem sudden. But this can be avoided. Until the baby puzzled you, stop by the bookstore. Wonderfully illustrated modern children's encyclopedias will help you find the right answer to any of his questions. Choosing one of them, be sure to familiarize yourself with the content, language. You should not give the child a book for "independent study." Read together! And by all means discuss what you read. If there is no suitable literature at hand, tell your child about “this” in your own words. Just don’t worry - you will definitely succeed! The explanation may be something like this. Women in the tummy have special cells. Men have special cells. If a man and a woman love each other very much and want to be near, they hug so tightly that dad’s cell gets to his mother. And then the child begins to develop. From the love of two people, a third man is born, which unites them even more. Dose the information. It should correspond to the level of development and interest of the crumbs. It will be difficult for the child to absorb its excess. This will discourage him. Answer the questions as they become available. If there are more and more of them, rejoice: they completely trust you! Justify this trust, and then in difficult adolescence you will remain the best friend and adviser of the child. Kids tend to compare themselves with elders. But some of the adult experiences are not available to them. Let the little one understand that he will certainly have everything: kisses and children... But let him grow up first! ..

Psychologist's opinion

Do everything possible so that the baby does not witness the intimate relationship of the parents. If this happens, try to suppress your own embarrassment. Translate everything as a joke: portray a cheerful struggle, hugs in bed. Switch your baby’s attention, but act as if nothing special had happened. Or take advantage of the situation to speak frankly with your child. Let him ask the questions that he sees fit.

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